This page was created to serve as a resource and reference guide to teach you about sexual health and to help you have the knowledge you need to have safe, healthy intimacy with others.

Most Common STDs In Males

STDs socially feel like a topic that most men tend to avoid like the plague. A lot of men just don’t talk about STDs the way women do, as if not talking about them makes STDs not exist or it makes it not possible to get them. But knowledge is power. Women will get together and talk about friends they know who got STDs, how risky and easy it is to get STDs, behaviors that we engage in that cause us to get STDs, and how STDs are spread.

Here are the most common STDs discovered in men

I did a Google search of the most common STDs in men, and these are the results that Google returned to me.

A major challenge for sexual health in men is that they are more likely to ignore the external and internal changes/signs in their body. Some men may even be in denial about something being wrong with their body or wait until the problem progresses to the point of being very serious before having their body checked. In addition, intimacy is very important to men, so even if they suspect something is wrong, they are more likely to hesitate to get tested and may not get tested or tell their sexual partners anything at all, unless the woman they are being intimate with demands it from them. So, sexual health is a very sensitive topic for men and must be approached delicately for the safety of all partners involved.

Most Common STDs In Females

STDs are more noticeable in women than men. When women get exposed to STDs, we tend to have more obvious external signs like:

Lower abdominal pain right after sex
Burning and painful urination
Odor/smell, discharge, and itching in and around the vaginal area
Sudden lumps and bumps (especially painful ones) on or inside the vaginal area after intimacy
Blood in the vaginal area that is not connected to a woman’s monthly cycle
Nausea

The symptoms that can come very quickly after intimacy can make it more obvious to women that intimacy might be the cause of their discomfort. Furthermore, since women are also more likely to talk about these matters with other female friends and hear their stories, women tend to know to be on the lookout for changes in their body following intimacy. Women are also far more likely than men to get regular STD testing and are less likely to engage in risky sexual behavior. However, despite that women can be more cautious and careful about sexual health and risk, there is still a very high chance that women can get a UTI after a few sexual encounters (though you can definitely get an infection, STD, or STI after only one sexual encounter) from the bacteria that gets pushed inside the vagina during intimacy.

Here are the most common STDs that females get: Herpes is very easy to get, so it is common among women, as well as HPV. Vaginitis, such as BV/bacterial vaginosis and yeast infections, are also common sexually transmitted infections found in women.

Behaviors That Increase The Risk of STDs

Whichever partner (female or male) engages in more risky behavior, they are the one who is more likely to get an STD or STI and spread it to the other partner. Here are some risky behaviors that are most likely to result in an STD or STI:

Having a lot of sexual partners in a short period of time.
Not getting tested between sexual partners.
Not talking about sex with your partners. You need to know who else your partner is being intimate with besides you and how many others there may be, as well as know the kinds of sexual activities that your partner(s) engage in in order to have safe, healthy intimacy and prevent the spread of infection.
Going to bed right after intimacy without cleaning oneself first. It is important to bathe and clean the genitals and inside and outside the vaginal area following intimacy.
Engaging in risky behaviors, such as swinging, having many partners in a polyamorous relationship, and not using condoms/protection.
Not washing ones hands before touching a partner’s intimate, private areas, especially after working, after being out most or all of the day, and after touching animals and different surfaces.
Not cleaning sexual toys or objects used in the bedroom after each use.

I did a Google search about staph bacteria, and these are the results that Google returned to me.

Intimacy creates a lot of friction and many small injuries or cuts each time, and given that staph bacteria is on most surfaces, intimacy makes it much easier to get a staph infection that will cause health problems for one or both partners. This can be especially problematic if staph gets inside of the vaginal area. Men can more easily wash bacteria away, but a woman’s womb is deep, so it is hard to reach inside this area without a special tool or a vaginal suppository.

Staph and bacteria can easily get into penetrated, cut, and broken skin where they can cause serious infections. Cuts and small tears in the skin are created when nails break the skin. Rug and carpeting can create rope burn that tears the skin and causes bleeding. Fast, hard, or rough movements can create little tears in the skin as well. Objects used during intimacy, such as candle wax or objects used during BDSM, can create a lot of cuts and injuries in the skin for bacteria to enter into the body and cause infection.

Everyday Lifestyle Habits That Cause Sexual Erectile Dysfunction In Men

There are certain socially accepted and normal activities that people engage in that can damage the male scrotum and genitals. When the genitals get damaged, men may no longer be able to perform sexually or it will be very difficult to perform, pain may be experienced during intimacy, and sperm count can be reduced or completely decline so that having children will no longer be possible.

“Testicular pain is common. It is so common in fact that it is very likely that every guy, at some point in his life, will have experience with it…testicular cancer (also) tends to appear when you are younger or when you have reached middle age, but…most cases of testicular cancer are in fact painless (which means they can easily go undetected by men) and are usually detected through a bump or lump (so men must know about this and regularly check for lumps and bumps on their genitals to maintain healthy sexuality and performance)” (Richey C, Taylor J, Martens A. “9 Reasons Your Balls Hurt.” Men’sHealth. 16 Jan 2024).

There are two main ways that men can experience damage to the genitals and sexual erectile dysfunction:

From STD, STIs, and bacterial infections in the genital area, such as the bacteria that causes testicular cancer and other health problems like food poisoning that causes stomach pain and discomfort, bacteria in the kidneys, a lot of fungi that cause jock itch and candida in the genital area, as well as the bacteria that causes scrotum issues like hernia: Staph, strep, and enterobacteria.
From any activity that puts a lot of pressure or hard direct contact on the genitals can damage them, such as sitting on very hard objects like bicycles, engaging in rough sexual activities, not taking breaks during intimacy, kicking, hitting, cutting or using a hard or sharp object on the genital area, using objects like candle wax on the genitals, and any type of blunt force trauma on the genital area, such as what can result from car accidents, fighting, violence, and brutality.

Ways To Prevent STDs and Infection

Bacteria is on every surface and can get on the outside of male genitalia, which then can enter inside of the vaginal area each time during intimacy, so here are some ways to help reduce the likelihood of infection during and after intimacy:

Bathe before and after intimacy. Intimacy in the shower is one of the cleanest and most hygienic ways to safely be intimate because you can wash and clean each other’s genital areas before intimacy and after.

2. Use protection/condoms with your partners, even long-term partners. If there is any doubt about safety with your partner, if you are unsure about your partner’s sexual activities when you are not with them, or if you tend to experience pain, get vaginal infections, or notice an odor, discharge, or burning sensation following intimacy with your partner, then it is best to be safe and use a condom each time.

3. Just as men will wash their entire genital area after intimacy, women too must wash the whole body and vaginal area, so it is a good idea to clean out the vaginal area following intimacy with a vaginal suppository and/or a vaginal douche. However, you don’t need to use these cleaning agents daily. Only use them when there has been sexual activity, risk of infection, or when you feel an abnormality in the vaginal area.

4. Limit the number of sexual partners. Avoid activities like swinging or intimacy with many strangers.

5. Avoid engaging in sexual acts that put you in direct contact with bacteria, such as being intimate with someone while they currently have an STD, STI, or infection, and avoid penetration of the butt area since E.coli is always present in that area. Once male genitalia has had contact with E.coli in the butt area, male genitalia can not touch any other part of their partner without washing first because this will put E.coli on their partner’s skin and inside the vaginal area, which will create health problems and pain for their partner.

6. Take responsibility for your sexual health. Ladies, I know you often allow men to talk you into doing things that are not safe or you feel that you can’t have talks about health and sexuality with your partner sometimes, but it is your responsibility to demand safe and hygienic sexual practices from your partner. Your body is yours, so you put rules on it. If anything makes you uncomfortable, don’t do it. This is not negotiable. If your partner doesn’t accept your rules for your body, then they don’t deserve the right to use it. Access to your body is a privilege, not a right. There are plenty of fish in the sea that will accommodate you.

Remember, if you suspect at all that you have an STD, STI, or an infection, or if you feel that you got exposed to one, you should get tested and contact a professional for guidance about treatment options. If you have questions after reading all this information, you can contact Barbara Frank (301-297-3909, barbara_20815@hotmail.com) for wellness coaching and more information.

Bacteria From Intimacy Causes Child Abnormalities and Birth Defects

One of the most important reasons to practice safe and hygienic sexual practices is so that you can have healthy children. Some learning disabilities are the result of bacteria entering the woman’s womb during intimacy after an egg and sperm have united, so while pregnant, it is crucial to have safe intercourse for you, your partner, and your unborn child.

Mental illness and learning disabilities, including ADHD and schizophrenia, have been found to be caused by bacterial infections that got into the mother’s womb while she was pregnant. Here is more information about this link between bacteria in the vagina/womb and birth defects in newborns:

Ayubi E, Mansori K. Maternal Infection during Pregnancy and Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder in Children: A Systematic Review and Meta-Analysis. Iran J Public Health. 2022 Dec;51(12):2674-2687. doi: 10.18502/ijph.v51i12.11458. PMID: 36742242; PMCID: PMC9874197.

“There is arguing evidence regarding the association between maternal infections during pregnancy and the risk of intellectual disability (ID) in children…maternal infection significantly increased the risk of ID in children…Intellectual disability (ID) is a lifelong abnormality characterized by an IQ below 70 and deficits in both intellectual functioning and adaptive abilities, mostly identified in childhood or adolescence…While genetics or chromosomal factors are established to be the cause of ID in approximately half of cases, there is also some strong evidence for the role of environmental factors during pregnancy and embryonic neurodevelopment as causes of ID, including maternal infections. Maternal infections are well-established risk factors for the neurological and behavioral abnormalities in children, mainly due to the teratogenic effect of neurotropic infectious agents such as rubella, cytomegalovirus or Toxoplasma gondii on the fetal brain. The neurodevelopmental abnormalities associated with maternal infections could be due to brain damage directly induced by the infectious agents, or host immune responses to infection and subsequent inflammation, or indirectly by adverse birth outcomes induced by infections such as preterm birth, low birthweight, or neonatal brain injury…There have been substantial epidemiological studies of the associations between maternal infection and neurodevelopmental abnormalities (e.g., autism, schizophrenia and cerebral palsy” (Rezaeinejad M, Riahi SM, Moghadam KB, Tadi MJ, Geraili Z, Parsa H, Marhoommirzabak E, Nourollahpour Shiadeh M, Khatir AA. The association between maternal infection and intellectual disability in children: A systematic review and meta-analysis. PLoS One. 2023 Oct 5;18(10):e0292226. doi: 10.1371/journal.pone.0292226. PMID: 37796792; PMCID: PMC10553326).

To conclude, in order to have healthier children and to prevent some mental illnesses and learning disabilities in your future children, such as ADHD, schizophrenia, and intellectual disability, it is important to have hygienic, safe sexual practices with your partner and to reduce the bacteria that gets into the female womb during intimacy.

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